Check your Bucket List...

...at the door.

I'm sure many of you have a list of the things you'd like to try at least once in life. Not surprisingly, visiting a Dominatrix is a common one that shows up on many a bucket list.

I imagine the process one must go through to research the topic that has struck a chord in their fantasies and then the selection process to find the right Mistress who can twist your dreams into reality. Does she really exist?

That entirely depends. It can be when you are looking to have an authentic experience that flows rather naturally; a session which is spontaneously made up of the energy in the room, exploring interests and having your buttons pressed, while leaving all the decisions of how and when up to your Mistress. Being patient enough to allow Me to discover your kinks is always a great way to build trust and develop a stronger connection.

However, I also realize it takes a lot of courage to finally reach out and admit that you'd like to explore things you've only fantasized about... thus given the opportunity, you're hoping to make sure you get to dive right in and try all the things you've had running through your mind.

**If this is the type of session you're looking for, kindly run this past me in advance, so I know what to expect. Since you are hoping to work off a bucket list I will get my clip board so you can list them all. Each will be explored, assessed, and your performance will be judged, then merited. This experiment will be conducted and you will finally be able to check your Dominatrix curiosity off the bucket list. (Don't attempt to manipulate me during the session to walk through your fantasies at your direction or you will be throttled before even having the chance to check anything off the list.)

That being said, good communication is paramount to a good experience with your Domme. Yes I want to hear about your fantasies, and yes I want to hear your reflections after each session to know the progress I am making with you. I enjoy pulling reactions out of you... so do tell me what will get the best response, and what you would rather we stay away from. But don't attempt to top from the bottom. Doing so you could cheat yourself out of a wonderful experience making a total power exchange unlikely.

No dear, discussing your interests is in no way topping from the bottom. I don't want to have to play guessing games. If you know what you like and what your kinks are by all means, do tell me. What I'm referring to is not sitting up mid session and saying mistress are you going to sound me now or mistress could you please spend 60% of our time penetrating my holes and 25% of our time smothering me, then allow me the rest of the time to stare at and try to grope your ass.... Those folks get disappointed, and that is who I try to weed out through screening, but on occasion one slips through. To my dismay. My advice is to be in the moment, enjoy (and let me enjoy) the gift of submission you are giving to me. Once you try to make too many demands while in session, it is almost like taking back that gift. It leaves me feeling rather unable to think at all about what I might want to do to you... and isn't that the point?